Why do people tell
white lies?
Is it a good thing, or a bad thing to do if a person tells a
white lie?
Everything and every scenario has duo sides of it, is just depends on which side are you looking at and how you judge it.
When someone tells a
white lie, he/she is actually telling a well-intentioned untruth statement. A
white lie would cause only relatively minor discord if it were uncovered, and typically offers some benefit to the hearer.
White lies are often used to avoid offense, avoid unnecessary unhappy scenario to happen such as complimenting something one finds unattractive, lying to parents that you're "fine" whereas you're actually having a big stone pressing on you, lie to your spouse or partner that you had disconnected with your ex. In this case, the lie is told to avoid the harmful realistic implications of the truth. Why must we tell all these
white lies to our friends, parents, and partners and so on? Can't we just tell the truth to our close ones? In this case, we're actually trying to avoid unwanted worry-ness and unset scenario to happen.
For example, if your brother bet in a football match and lose thousands in one night! Will he tell your parents that he actually got into big trouble? 98% of them will try to settle their own by borrowing from friends and even relatives, but not directly to their parents. Why?
This is because he knows that his parents love them a lot and he is just telling a
white lie, try not to let his parents worry.
Why must we give a compliment to something even we found that it is not attractive? Or just tell straight into that person: “Owh, you look fat and ugly on it!” =.=
This is because we just don't wanna hurt someone's feeling as human are always more polite on negative stuffs.
Why must your partner lie to you that he/she actually didn't contact their ex for ages whereas they might just had a Hi-tea with them last afternoon?
Human are all the same, we will have jealousy on something which is actually not necessary. Your partner and his/her ex might be still good friends, they knew very clearly that there's nothing else connected between themselves besides of the word 'friendship'. So will any problem occurs if they really catch up with each other
BUT not telling their partner bout it? Ok, some might tell, but mostly will
NOT. This is because he/she might not what to have unnecessary jealousy to happen. This might cause a quarrel, a fight and all those upset scenarios on the list.
But if you are on the other side of these people, you will think the other way round.
Parents of the betting son: Why can't our son just tell us the truth? No matter what, we are still his parent and still love him no matter what happen.
Person who gets compliment: I will just accept the fact if I'm not attractive or so on.
Partner/spouse of the Hi-tea friends: If my partner/spouse didn't do anything wrong, why can't he/she just tell me that he/she is going to meet his/her ex?!
So, we need to see things on both sides. Stand into people's shoes and think if you're that person before judging something.
White lies are good in one case, but sometimes still will mislead people. Honesty is the best policy; yet sometimes
white lies still leads a little in conclusion.
